Trust is both the prerequisite for and the result of living a spiritual life. Given trust is both cause (prerequisite) and effect (result), it is fundamental.
Trust is the foundation of every relationship.
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Trust is the Fundamental issue in Relationship
It has been my experience that when trust is low, when there is a lack of trust, I actually need to confront that issue. I need to face the issue of having a low level of trust. I need to confront it head-on with love (without judgment or negative emotions).
Whether it is within myself, a relationship, or in a strategic alliance, we need to confront low levels of trust if we expect to create value.
In a relationship we need to be willing to confront (co-front) difficult issues, especially a lack of trust. If we can fully and unemotionally face such issues – head-on – then trust will come. We have created a situation which calls for trust. And we can trust that trust will come.
In strategic alliances (value-creating relationships) we can use confrontation to call for trust, and trust that trust will come. In such a clearing process we enable both sides to see value and then create greater value. The confrontational process actually enables greater value-creation to occur.
With acceptance (full acknowledgement without judgment or negative emotion), we can transcend a lack of trust – we rise above it. With embracement (acceptance with love), we can transform a lack of trust into a deepened relationship.
In some relationships we may discover that it is not possible to have a sufficient level of trust. We therefore choose to lovingly part ways. Such clarity is a form of deepening; we know where we stand in that relationship.
Real trust is not a trust that waits and hopes but a trust that acts from who you truly are. Real trust requires a discipline of being who you are in every circumstance and in every relationship. Real trust begins with your Self.
– A Course of Love
We can, in fact, trust trust.
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